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I accused an innocent man of rape, destroyed his bright future - 'Unremorseful' woman confesses

• By Rita Mintah
• May 16, 2018
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A married Ghanian woman has confessed to accusing an innocent man of rape who was consequently jailed for a crime he never committed.

The confession which was sent to the inbox of David Papa Bondze-Mbir, a relationship expert on Facebook has since gone viral.

The married woman who wanted her story to be shared on condition of anonymity explained that, the man though was poor, was someone she loved so much but she had to choose a rich man over him for a luxurious future.

The sexual affair which was influenced by alcohol, she said was done by both parties on consensus but to avoid breaking her home after she was caught by her husband, she had to lie.

"One night, at a party, I made a terrible drunken mistake and ended up having sex with Guy A, who was also drunk. Guy B found out. Not wanting to lose him and miss that chance to live an easy life in wealth, I claimed that Guy A had raped me. Thankfully, Guy B believed me and did not blame me for cheating. Guy A was arrested.", she narrated.

She described the silence of the victimized man in the courtroom as 'being responsible'.

"Even though he could have tried to argue that it was not rape because we had both been drunk, he behaved as a true gentleman and took full responsibility! When he said (during the trial): 'If I hurt the woman I love, I want to pay for it', I felt so bad that I cried (though everybody attributed my reaction to rape trauma). Yet he never held a grudge against me! (have I mentioned he's sooo perfect?)".

The falsely accused man according to her has been released from prison but that doesn't change the guilt of knowing that she ruined the future of a once bright and intelligent man.

"Now, not having had a University degree and with a prison record, I don't think his future is really bright. He'll probably end up a cleaner (in the best case) or unemployed and homeless".

She concluded by saying "I do not have the luxury to feel further remorse. I now have a family and kids with Guy B and have to focus on my kids' upbringing."

Read her statement chanced by Ghanaweb on Facebook below:

#InboxMessage

"Hi Dave, I have got something to share with you... very disheartening!

Ten years ago, at the University, there was that guy (Guy A) who was just too perfect: Charming, mature, a real gentleman to all the ladies. He was really into me, he said he'd be true to me for life and I believed him. The only problem was that he was poor. Most likely, he'd change his fate because of his skills (he was a brilliant student, maybe the best), but I did not want to take any chances, especially since I also had another option.

That other option was not as good as the first one: A spoiled brat in mind, a womanizer, I knew he'd eventually cheat on me (which he did several times over the following years). But his parents were rich and I could have an easy life next to him. So, I became Guy B's girlfriend.

You might consider me a whore, but I'm a woman, I should not only think about myself, but also about the children I would later have. I wanted to offer them a comfortable life.

One night, at a party, I made a terrible drunken mistake and ended up having sex with Guy A, who was also drunk. Guy B found out. Not wanting to lose him and miss that chance to live an easy life in wealth, I claimed that Guy A had raped me. Thankfully, Guy B believed me and did not blame me for cheating. Guy A was arrested.

Even though he could have tried to argue that it was not rape because we had both been drunk, he behaved as a true gentleman and took full responsibility! When he said (during the trial): 'If I hurt the woman I love, I want to pay for it', I felt so bad that I cried (though everybody attributed
my reaction to rape trauma).

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a monster. I feel remorse for what I did, but there was no alternative. Guy A was awesome and, in a perfect world, we were a would-be a happy couple. But, either we like it or not, in real world, you need money. Love does not pay bills. Guy A was released recently. As I heard from friends we had in common at college, he was raped uncountable times all those years in prison.

Yet he never held a grudge against me! (have I mentioned he's sooo perfect?). Now, not having had a University degree and with a prison record, I don't think his future is really bright. He'll probably end up a cleaner (in the best case) or unemployed and homeless.

I do not have the luxury to feel further remorse. I now have a family and kids with Guy B and have to focus on my kids' upbringing."

Source:  www.ghanaweb.com